Suicides...

Tonight, I’m moved to write about suicides... an issue that has been bothering me for some time. NO, this does not mean that I am suicidal :P But, don’t you feel concern or worried about this issue? Nowadays, I read quite a number of news about Muslims committing suicide. This is not right. Something is not right. In fact, something has gone terribly wrong in our society... that’s why this problem occurred even more often now.

If I remember correctly, last year there were a few cases of suicide attempts... I think there were even successful attempts *sigh*. But, I didn’t pay much attention to this problem last year because the reason those people attempted suicide were most of the times, ‘stupid’. I’m trying to express my opinion as nice as I can, but to me trying to kill yourself just because your boyfriend ‘balik kampung’ without informing you or because your sincere love was rejected were not really ‘clever’ reasons. We have an old sayings right? Bunga bukan sekuntum, kumbang bukan seekor... so, come on! If you’re really heartbroken, just give yourself some time. Do something meaningful & significant, so that you feel like you have achieved something. It will take your mind off your love problem. After a while, you’ll be healed... Heart break because of love is not terminal. It is curable *wink*

So, I’m not going to worry so much about those ‘not so clever ‘reasons.

What triggered my deepest concern was when I read a news about a 13 year old teenage boy who committed suicide in his home bathroom. He was just 13. Astaghfirullahalazim... and the night before that, my friend wrote that her husband’s ex-student committed suicide because he didn’t do well in school. He was 16. Today, in the news, a young woman committed suicide after 2 months of being laid off from her job.

This is so, so sad!

I can’t identify the reasons of those suicides... although, I sometimes think that I would make a good member in ‘Criminal Mind’s BAU team :P In real life, I’m an outsider who knows nothing about those people. So, I can’t comment anything.

All I can say is that, us, the people living in the same society... we can do something. If we pay a little bit more attention, be a bit more concern & caring, a little less selfish. Suicidal people are depressed people. Maybe we don’t understand how people can become suicidal, but we have experienced depression haven’t we? It’s something that we cannot miss in our lives. So, we have some ideas how to deal with depression... this is where we can help.

If we see someone, especially someone we know, looks troubled or worry, try and ask what’s bothering them. Who knows, we might be a bit help at that moment just by asking. But, don’t be all busybody or judgemental. We’ll ruin it. If we don’t know how to ask, then don’t. We should get someone else to help us if we can’t get it out of your mind. If we are not the type of person who contributes to pleasant environment, then please don’t be the ones creating unpleasantness. If we are a parent, don’t be such a grumpy, ridiculously high expectation and avoid favouritism... don’t just complaint. If we are not going to show our children a way out, then we should critic ourselves first.

I used ‘we’ and ‘us’ because again, this is a note to myself as well...

To everyone out there, please... suicide is definitely not the solution to your problem. If you have a problem, get help. Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Make sure you go to the right person. Avoid those with condescending tones or judging looks or cluttered unhappy lives. And remember, alcohol, drugs, clubbing, partying are not the answer either. Choose something healthy.

To my fellow Muslims... please... if you ever thought of suicide, pleaseeeee... don’t! Life is hard, yes... it is the same for ALL of us... Life has its ups and downs... when you hit rock bottom, hang in there. Pray, have faith in Allah for He is always fair and loving and caring and everything. The wheel will go up again...

I have to repeat what I wrote before;
Whatever happens, keep the faith... Remember, there is always hope and ALLAH is never unfair.

I pray for a sane life for all of us.
We can all help to make a difference.

Good night all! Wishing you guys great days ahead.