Become a housewife?

Just now, from the ride back from work, a friend asked me what is it that I really want to do. I hesitated for a while coz there is another thing that I really want to do. Then, suddenly another friend blurted out ‘housewife’ and to my own surprise, I said 'Yes!'

It shocked me as well as my friends. They were all guys. Maybe this is the first time that they heard that a woman in this ‘modern’ days wants to become a housewife. But as far as I knew, most of my lady friends want to become a housewife. I’ve heard most of them wishing that they can just spend time at home taking care of their family and doing house chores. Some of them are already happily living the life that they’ve dreamed of. Is this shocking? It shouldn’t be.

But of course, I, as a modern woman have a different definition on how to be a housewife. The first condition is a very reliable husband and secondly, financially secured. The first condition is important so that I know I’m doing what’s worth and the second one is important as a backup plan.

One question lingers in my mind. Nowadays, is it even possible to become a housewife in a ‘modern woman’ definition?

Nikah Misyar?

Dah lama tak menulis. Sebab utama, dah lama tak ada idea. Sebab kedua (atau alasan?), takde seru. Sebab ketiga, susah jugak kalau asyik nak menulis in English. Dah la my English only so-so :) Sebab tu la tulis blog dalam bahasa melayu plak.

Anyway, kebelakangan ni, dapat banyak pula idea untuk menulis.
Macam- macam kejadian. Isu terbaru, isu kahwin misyar. Hmmm... kontroversi ni. Agaknya dah ramai sangat perempuan yang masih belum berkahwin walaupun usia dah meningkat. Macam- macam pendapat keluar kat suratkhabar. Ada yang sokong. Ada yang tak sokong. Yang tak puas hati pun ada.

Dalam Utusan Malaysia 26 Mei 2006:
http://www.utusan.com.my/utusan/archive.asp?y=2006&dt=0525&
pub=utusan_malaysia&sec=dalam%5Fnegeri&pg=dn_01.htm&arc=hive
KUALA LUMPUR 24 Mei - Seorang pensyarah universiti hari ini mencadangkan supaya kaum lelaki dibenarkan mengamalkan perkahwinan misyar bagi mengatasi masalah ramai wanita tidak berkahwin.

http://www.utusan.com.my/utusan/archive.asp?y=2006&dt=0526&pub=utusan_malaysia&sec=rencana&pg=re_01.htm
&arc=hive
Perlukah nikah misyar?
NIKAH misyar yang juga dikenali sebagai ‘nikah musafir’ adalah sebuah perkahwinan yang tidak memerlukan psangan tinggal sebumbung. Bukan itu sahaja, suami tidak mempunyai tanggungjawab dari segi kewangan ke atas isterinya serta wujud implikasi bahawa akan berlaku perceraian.

http://www.utusan.com.my/utusan/archive.asp?y=2006&dt=0526&pub=utusan_malaysia&sec=politik&pg=po_01.htm
&arc=hive
'KUALA LUMPUR 25 Mei - Dewan Muslimat Pas menolak cadangan supaya perkahwinan misyar dibenarkan kerana ia tidak bersesuaian dengan masyarakat negara ini.'

http://www.utusan.com.my/utusan/archive.asp?y=2006&dt=0526
&pub=utusan_malaysia&sec=muka%5Fhadapan&pg=mh_01.htm&arc=hive
KUALA LUMPUR 25 Mei - Kementerian Pembangunan Wanita, Keluarga dan Masyarakat menolak cadangan supaya lelaki dibenar mengamalkan perkahwinan misyar dengan alasan tidak sesuai dengan keperluan masyarakat negara ini

Fuhhh… macam- macam pendapat ada. Nak lebih lanjut, boleh la baca kat Utusan Malaysia ok. I bet dalam internet pun tengah hangat dibincangkan. Apa- apa pun, in my case, I agree with Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil. She said; `Kenapa perlu, jika diikutkan nisbah antara wanita dan lelaki, ia tidak ketara perbezaannya. Malah, isu wanita tidak berkahwin bukan satu masalah dan mereka ini tidak sepatutnya dilayan sebagai kes kebajikan, golongan ini harus dihormati. ``Jangan layan golongan ini seperti itu, sebenarnya mereka ini lebih bahagia daripada memilih untuk berkahwin,'' katanya pada sidang akhbar di sini hari ini.

Hehehheheeee… wa caya lu Datuk Seri.

Setiap orang pasti ada pendapat masing- masing and I’m sure there are some, not only guys, but also ladies yang bersetuju dengan cadangan kahwin misyar ni. Setiap orang mempunyai keperluan dan kemahuan
yang berbeza. Sebab tu la nikah misyar ni wujud. Kalau bagi orang yang hanya memerlukan nafkah batin, nikah misyar memang sesuai. Itupun kalau nafkah batin didefinisikan sebagai ‘seks’ sahaja. Ishhh… apa la erti perkahwinan macam ni? Tapi, berguna untuk mengelakkan maksiat dan dosa. Hmmm… susah jugak ni. So, terpaksa la refer to keperluan dan kemahuan masing- masing, ye tak?

Personally, I wouldn’t get myself into this nikah misyar thing. Sebab utama, nikah misyar bukanlah perkahwinan that I’ve been dreaming and waiting for. Kalau peranan suami hanyalah untuk nafkah batin yang satu itu sahaja, lebih baik stay single. ‘You won’t miss what you never had’. Lagipun, how can I respect, obey and look up to a suami like this? Silap- silap, dah la suami tak bagi nafkah zahir, dah tu, dia tolong ‘pow’ sekali wang penat lelah kita. Tak ke nahas? Orang lelaki jangan la tersinggung ye baca blog I ni. I tulis berdasarkan kejadian benar. Sekarang ni, yang tak nikah misyar pun, ada suami yang hanya main peranan untuk nafkah ‘batin’ aje. Yang lain dia buat- buat lupa. But, kalau kahwin misyar, isteri takdelah ambil hati ye tak? Sebab dua- dua pihak dah bersetuju. Hehheheeee… Anyway, back to my personal opinion, this is not the kind of suami or perkahwinan yang diharap- harapkan selama ni. Kahwin misyar, sure nanti rasa macam ‘one night stand’ aje. Tak bermakna dan melukakan hati.

One important question. Kalau nikah misyar, isteri kena hormat suami macam nikah biasa jugak ke? Then, kalau ada anak macam mana? Hmmm… to those yang tengah consider nikah misyar, banyak nak kena consider and find out. Jangan suka- suka ajeeee…

Harap- harap kita semua berjumpa jodoh yang baik, bertanggungjawab, beriman dan beramal soleh supaya bahagia dari dunia hinggalah hari akhirat nanti. Aminnnnnn....

Jumping into conclusion?

This is a good illustration of how we should never ever jump into conclusion or make assumption. Always get the right fact first before taking any action.

Have a wonderful life!!!

Brokeback Mountain

I watched Brokeback Mountain and to my surprise, I love it. To be honest, I always avoid homosexual related thingy. It's just yikes!!! However, who can refrain the attraction of two hot actors? I'm telling you, Jake Gyllenhaal and Heath Ledger are just gorgoues. Seeing them in Brokeback Mountain, I'm having a hard time choosing... hehehheeeee...

I love Brokeback Mountain. Ang Lee has made me feel not so yikes!!! about gay relationship. The actors are so talented that they made me accept that 'Love is a force of nature'. The scenery & cinematography so wonderful that made me imagine myself herding sheeps together with Jack Twist and Ennis Del Mar. I can smell the grasses, I can touch the flowers, I can feel the wind on my face, I can feel the cold water of the river... I can even hear the bluebird sings. In fact I'm'standing' on Brokeback Mountain while I'm writing this. I love this story so much, that I watched it again & again.

Then today I read a heading in a newspaper that Jake Gyllenhaal and Ang Lee are given some kind of awards for human rights. What kind of human rights award, I wonder. Is it the award for acknowledging homosexuals?

This is like a wake up call to me.

I have to apologize. No matter how many times I tell myself, I cannot bring myself to support this 'kind' of human right. It's just not right and it's against my religious belief.

So, bravo to Brokeback Mountain. Bravo to Heath Ledger and Jake Gyllenhaal for your outstanding performance. But I hope there will be no more movies like this.

To Jake Gyllehaal, I really really hope that you'll get the Academy. You deserve it.

Juicy Fruiter

Juicy Fruiter

I don't have much visitor to my blog. But one day a Juicy Fruiter came and even left a message. He found my blog inquisitive... I read that message with a smile. Thank you!

I visited his blog and found that he's really is a nature guy and really passionate in what he's doing. Why don't you guys take a peep at his blog. Perhaps you'll find something you love there.

To Juicy Fruiter, you really made me drool thinking about all the juicy fruits!

Bigfoot?

Hey… you know what?! People claim that they saw Bigfoot in one of the states in my country. Can you believe it? Bigfoot in my country? I found it hard to believe, but I have to admit that in a midst of rapid development, there is still a lot of unexplored area right here in Homeland. Or maybe… in the midst of this rapid development, some people has explored too far… what do you think?

Those people who had seen the Bigfoot claimed that it was five foot tall. Wowwww… that’s really tall and its footprint was 45cm long. Wowwwieeee… that’s really big. They said it has red eyes that made them shivers at only a glance. When they spent the night in the jungle, the Bigfoot came and shook the trees that they rested on.

I know I’m supposed to feel a little bit scary reading these kind of news, but somehow I feel pity for the Bigfoot. Am I being weird?

I don’t think so.

In my mind, I believe some people has crossed into “someone’s” land without permission and maybe even been disrespectful in that “land”. Now how would you feel if someone suddenly walked in your lawn and start plucking your beautiful roses?

If that was me, I would scare the intruder a little bit. I couldn’t beat them or scold them because that would be rude, wouldn’t it? But a little stare with red eyes and shook my favourite tree a little bit while the intruder was resting on it (not to mention that they were ruining the green and fresh leaves and leaving marks on the branches). Or maybe my eyes were red because I had been crying seeing violations on my beloved home?

I might be delusional right?

Scientist from Homeland and some from neighbouring country have planned to start an expedition to hunt Mr. Bigfoot. Great idea… but when they mentioned that this could be a new attraction and could bring more tourists to Homeland, I somehow feel “Please leave Mr. Bigfoot and his family alone!”. He has been spending and enjoying a peaceful life, until now. As far as I’m concern he never disturbed us human until human went in and disturbed him.

I’m becoming a little bit emotional now…

I know finding Bigfoot would be a scientific breakthrough. But I hope after it was found, please treat it with respect. It has been so nice to us human being that despite its big size, it gave way to our development and watched us grow. I believe we have taken much of it beloved land, but instead of crushing us to our bones, it shied away into the deep jungle.

So please, please be nice to it. I believe, like us, it also dreams of spending the rest of its lives peacefully with its family and beloved home.

I took the picture from this website (just in case you are interested) :

Stepping Stone to Growth

Trouble is something no one can escape
Everyone has it in some form or shape
Sickness and sorrow come to us all
But through it we grow and learn to stand tall

For trouble is part and parcel of life
And no man can grow without struggle and strife
The more we endure with patience and grace
The stronger we grow and the more we can face!
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This has been my inspirational poem since forever! It was on a greeting card I bought for myself during school time.

2006 will mark the 3rd decade I’ve been on earth. At this age (well, actually last year) I finally realized that growing up is a lifetime struggle. If you think you have seen it all, trust me, you haven’t. If you think you’ve gone through all the ups and downs of life, I’m sure you haven’t. There will always be bumps, distractions and frustrations along the journey. But success and happiness will be waiting at the end of it. Just take them all as challenges and you’ll get through all the tests that life has for you. Just remember that it’s never too late to do the right thing and you’re never too old to do anything as long as it means that you’re doing it to improve yourself.

So, be inspired and let’s have a successful year!